Our first baby is here!

Ian

Ian

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My wife and I have been blessed with a perfect little baby girl. Jacqueline Louise was born on 1 August and is doing great.

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The road to parenthood hasn't been easy as some here know, Jacqueline is our sixth child in four years but the first to survive full term. We had looked forward to a normal birth but in the last week before her due date it became apparent that a Cesarean birth was the only option to ensure the safety of baby and her mother, so we scheduled for the day after her official date. However, she decided to try and come ON her due date anyway, so we had to intervene and inconvenience our superb team of obstetricians, pediatricians, nurses, and anesthesiologists the evening before and have ourselves a big birthday party. All went smoothly, we were able to come home in less than 72 hours, baby is in fantastic condition and Wifey is recovering extremely well.
 
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fiver

fiver

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after the troubles you guy's have had most would have given up.
Congrats..

oh,,,, she does look like you.
 
Ian

Ian

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Thank you, everyone. All babies are special, but this one is extra special to us. The times of discouragement and flat out dispair are difficult to describe. One OB actually told us (completely WRONG!!) after a genetic test of our third baby's tissue that the female cells couldn't divide properly and she would never be able to bring a child to full term. After the appointment, we talked on the phone with the lab technician who performed the test and she set the record straight that that particular time was merely a random anomaly statistically responsible for only about 11% of all reported miscarriages, and how an MD specializing in obstetrics could possibly have not been able to read plain English in the lab report with comprehension had us all puzzled, but the devastating news from the doctor had already nearly done us in. Some news can't be un-heard, even if wrong.

Meg is one tough, stubborn cookie though, and after firing a half-dozen or so obstetricians and other specialists we sort of figured out the malfunction on our own thanks to (of all things) the internet. Turns out we both have a gene mutation called the "MTHFR" gene, A-1298-C to be exact, and after realizing for the sixth try all we needed to do was switch to methylated forms of folate and B supplements, everything fell into place. We found a gynecologist who is actually doing additional graduate studies on the subject, and an obstetrician who both understands fertility issues on a personal level as well as professional, and is also is familiar with our particular gene issues. Those two guided us through the tedious process of getting the right form and right amounts of these special vitamins and the rest is history. We found it quite interesting that a whole circle of ladies with long histories of multiple miscarriages, also under the care of this outstanding gynecologist, suddenly had healthy pregnancies and healthy babies right after receiving the correct treatment around the same time we did. Our understanding is about 60% of the people walking around right now have some form of this same gene mutation, but mainstream medicine has blown it off as quackery only embraced by a few naturopaths and done it's damndest to discredit the notion. Fortunately for us, some people are starting to see the light and are taking great efforts to make it brighter.

Anyone who believes they are an anachronism, born a hundred years late, must never have faced infertility or the certainty of losing both their wife and baby in an impossible birth scenario. We owe all we have to some truly great people and the medical technology of the 21st century. I'm still going to keep using my flip phone, though ;)
 
smokeywolf

smokeywolf

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My mother had 3 miscarriages before giving birth to my sister and 2 more between Sis and me. When she was pregnant with me she went to an OB who told her she couldn't possibly be pregnant and would likely never be able to successfully conceive. When she told him she had a 3 year old at home, he suggested that the one at home had perhaps been adopted.
Awfully hard to find a doctor worthy of your confidence.
 
Brad

Brad

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Ian, some lessons just must be learned first hand.
Parenthood is both rewarding beyond all belief and frustration to an extreme.
You will learn quickly that some things you thought were important just aren't really a big deal anymore.

Congrats on sticking with it. Sometimes it is a matter of finding the right MD who doesn't believe in giving up
 
462

462

California's Central Coast Amid The Insanity
Congratulations!

Glad to hear Mom and Jacquline are well.

Dad is probably still floating in the clouds.
 
Ian

Ian

Notorious member
smokeywolf said:
Awfully hard to find a doctor worthy of your confidence.
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Don't I know it. Went though this with opthomologists, lawyers, dentists, ER doctors, college professors, neurologists, come to think of it every professional whose services I've needed to hire. It becomes readily apparent after a while that regardless of education level, the bell curve still applies, and if you really need a top-tier pro to help you solve your problem, you aren't likely to find one on your first referral. When you DO find a really good (fill in the blank), it's like a gift straight from the Almighty. I do not hesitate in writing emotional letters of gratitude to the great ones whose lives have intersected mine at critical times.
 
Pistolero

Pistolero

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Congrats, again, Ian. We worked on it for a long time and failed.
Best wishes.

As far as bell curve on professionals, yes. A good friend taught MD students anatomy for three decades. I asked
how the students were - he moved here from a big south Fla city, said that the students here were way better.
He evaluated his KS students as 10% true superstars, the ones you hope to have as a doc, 10% solid, great docs,
will do extremely well, just not quite superstars, 20% safe, solid, will do fine. 30% good folks fairly smart,
probably won't hurt anybody, but will not set the world on fire, either. The next 20% he predicted would be
likely to wind up in medical management positions, and the bottom 10% he really worried about, hoped they
would do something besides practice, although they did meet the bare requirements.

Remember the old saying. "You know what they call the person who is ranked last in medicals school?.......
Doctor." Yep.

But I have had some real experts, and had to threaten to punch out one ER doc who was clearly a total
idiot, had really really hurt me roughly, incompetently moving my dislocated shoulder arm, unable to read
the extremely obvious X-ray, wouldn't stop reaching to move the arm a second time, even after I told him
twice not to touch me again. Next day I walked into a real doc's office, and slid off the draped shirt on
that side. From 8 ft away, at a glance, he said, "OK, a dislocated shoulder, and out the back, too."
Grrr. Fortunately, this is the only really bad one I have gotten, although a couple have been merely OK.

Fantastic to discover that something as simple as the correct supplements can fix such a big problem.

You are blessed. I have helped a friend raise his two boys, a little bit and they still call me "uncle", and
I have a a couple of real nephews, and it has been great to do even a small bit helping them to grow up.
You'll have a lot of great things to teach that young lady over the years.

Enjoy every minute, they grow up very quickly.

Bill
 
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CONGRATULATIONS !!!!

We could not be more excited for you. That picture just sent my wife's biological clock(I didn't even know guys had these till about a year ago, when mine started making noises) into double overdrive.

Best wishes for quick healing & happy healthy years to come. :)
 
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