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California's Central Coast Amid The Insanity
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Tomme boy
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He passed late Saturday night. I checked my email before going to bed and his one sister sent a email that just said he is dead. That was it. About an hour later his friend down there called and told me.
POA was with a good longtime friend of his that called me to inform me of his passing. .
Last year I sent my information to my father to "update" his will. Now his sisters are saying there is no will. My father asked me at the same time what I wanted. He said I could have everything he has. I told him it was up to him what he wanted to give me. He knew I was into guns and said I could have all of them. I have a feeling I know why the one sister and husband are acting up. When their mother died many years ago when they were having a estate auction, my father took the guns his father had as that was what his father wanted for him. There were two colt single action 45 revolvers and a Winchester lever action that was from about 1915. The sisters were pissed off he had them because they said they should have been sold off.
I don't know if he still has these. But he said he had a few old guns that were his fathers that he wanted to make sure I got them.
We are leaving Monday evening to drive down.
POA was with a good longtime friend of his that called me to inform me of his passing. .
Last year I sent my information to my father to "update" his will. Now his sisters are saying there is no will. My father asked me at the same time what I wanted. He said I could have everything he has. I told him it was up to him what he wanted to give me. He knew I was into guns and said I could have all of them. I have a feeling I know why the one sister and husband are acting up. When their mother died many years ago when they were having a estate auction, my father took the guns his father had as that was what his father wanted for him. There were two colt single action 45 revolvers and a Winchester lever action that was from about 1915. The sisters were pissed off he had them because they said they should have been sold off.
I don't know if he still has these. But he said he had a few old guns that were his fathers that he wanted to make sure I got them.
We are leaving Monday evening to drive down.
RBHarter
West Central AR
My condolences .
Go quietly . I missed out on the "good stuff" from my grandfather because I wasn't there digging through stuff .......
I did end up with a few memories pieces . In the end I stumbled into the leftovers . If I wanted to sell 4-5 of the 8-9 fly rods still in factory sleeves and tubes they might bring 8k+ . Bitter sweet for sure .
Good luck .
Go quietly . I missed out on the "good stuff" from my grandfather because I wasn't there digging through stuff .......
I did end up with a few memories pieces . In the end I stumbled into the leftovers . If I wanted to sell 4-5 of the 8-9 fly rods still in factory sleeves and tubes they might bring 8k+ . Bitter sweet for sure .
Good luck .
Petrol & Powder
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Sorry for your loss.
Many people will talk about creating a Will but never actually get around to creating a Will. So, there is a good chance there is no Will. There's a small chance that there is a Will but no one knows that it exists. Most people will tell others about the existence and location of a Will because if they went to the effort of creating one, they want it known and they want it followed. If your father used a lawyer, go to that person and ask about a Will. Ask your father's friend about a Will. If your father created a will he probably told that friend where it is. Be ready to accept the possibility that there is no Will; that is a very real possibility.
I've watched these events get ugly. In the end, it is just stuff. Don't let it consume you. In the end if all you have are memories of someone, don't let mere possessions poison those memories.
Take the high road. Regardless of how the distribution of property plays out, you'll be better off when it's all over.
Many people will talk about creating a Will but never actually get around to creating a Will. So, there is a good chance there is no Will. There's a small chance that there is a Will but no one knows that it exists. Most people will tell others about the existence and location of a Will because if they went to the effort of creating one, they want it known and they want it followed. If your father used a lawyer, go to that person and ask about a Will. Ask your father's friend about a Will. If your father created a will he probably told that friend where it is. Be ready to accept the possibility that there is no Will; that is a very real possibility.
I've watched these events get ugly. In the end, it is just stuff. Don't let it consume you. In the end if all you have are memories of someone, don't let mere possessions poison those memories.
Take the high road. Regardless of how the distribution of property plays out, you'll be better off when it's all over.
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trapper9260
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The one that is on the will is the one has the say what needs to be done . I know because my mom put me in charge of her affairs and her will . I have dealt with it then .
trapper9260
Active Member
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Sorry for your lost .
Petrol & Powder
Well-Known Member
The executor of the Will disburses the property in accordance to the Will and the law.
The executor has no authority beyond that.
Ultimately, it is just stuff.
Hawk is absolutely correct, "Don't let what happens with the sister spoil your memories of your father. They are two separate things".
CWLONGSHOT
Well-Known Member
Condolences Tom.
Not easy situation. My FiL passed some years back. 6 daughters. No Sons. I came along late. Only enjoyed his company about 20 years but I loved the man. I hope I have done him proud.
He told my MiL what he wanted for me. She had a box and I am blessed to have received what he gave to me. I have his pocket knife. I have carried and cherished it for years.
Been where you are and dont relish that at all.
Good luck Brother.
CW
Not easy situation. My FiL passed some years back. 6 daughters. No Sons. I came along late. Only enjoyed his company about 20 years but I loved the man. I hope I have done him proud.
He told my MiL what he wanted for me. She had a box and I am blessed to have received what he gave to me. I have his pocket knife. I have carried and cherished it for years.
Been where you are and dont relish that at all.
Good luck Brother.
CW
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That stated, most 'personal' property is divided (or taken) outside probate. If it is 'registered' property (gov know about it), goes into probate.
Hope this helps.
