Don't need all the details because every relationship is going to be a little different.
Will go out on a limb and say that I am a professional equipment,"sneaker inner".Professional because it is a paying gig.IOW's...if wifey doesn't know what comes into the shop,she is therefore not entitled to any profits of said equipment leaving.*See opening comments on relationships.34 years of bliss speaking however.
Back when I was still under amateur status,and may have been one of a few...brilliant ideas,all things considered to get me bumped up to Pro level was,how our first BP(Bridgeport) got,or maybe stated magically,appeared.
Me-"Guess what honey bunny"...
Wifey-"OMG,what have you done now"?tap,tap,tap
Me-"Seriously,Hunter(#3 son),found this really nice milling machine and wants me to check it out for him"..?I told him,at 13 years old that it was a large responsibility,and though he had the money...is this something you are sure you want to do?He said he was ready if I could find the time to help him with it?
Wife-"you better help with it...where did he find it?